Fostering is not just for married couples. If you feel your heart calling you to foster, and you feel capable to do so, don’t let being single stand in your way. Surprisingly, 27% of America’s adoptive parents are single men and women. We’d like to see this statistic ring true for the foster community as well.
First things first, figure out what worries you about fostering as a single parent. Are you worried about juggling work, kids, and free time, or are you worried about finances? By pinpointing what your worries are, you can then think about tangible solutions to your problem. Often, when people begin doubting their ability to foster, it usually stems from one main reason. Identifying this can help you see whether or not fostering is a good fit for you.
Remember this: a single parent is better than no parent. So many of these kids are just wishing for a home, and there aren’t currently enough families that are willing to take them. If you are able and willing, you will make a wonderful foster home for a child in need. In some cases, due to past trauma, kids find adjusting to one person easier than two.
Support is everything. Surround yourselves with other foster parents to switch off babysitting, and people to gain advice from, as well as tell your troubles too. Chances are you’ll be able to find other single foster parents in your area to connect with. If you’re unable to find a group in your area, start one or join a group online. The church is another great place to seek out help – in terms of physical, emotional and spiritual support- which is most important of all.
Single individuals make capable, successful, wonderful foster parents. What a beautiful thing to open up your home and your heart to a child in need – and they will love you for it, even if it’s just the two of you. Pray for strength and clarity, and when you feel ready, make the jump.